Sick days.Now that I am no longer working, one thing I don't miss about my old job is the requirement to give updates on my health - or calling in sick. When you are a bit older, with not so good health, missing work and calling in to say so is one of the most humiliating things you have to do. Of course, you gotta tell them why you're not at work, which goes to show you illness in itself is just plain humiliating.
Nevertheless, I no longer write about my health problems, no need to, and it is nicer not to bore people with them. Although I want to write about a recent development - or the evolution of it. I have "vascular" problems - it's a kidney, lung, heart thing - I mean everything is related.
Without naming the problem, I can't remember what it is called anyway, it has to do with headaches in the temporal region, the veins swell in the temples and it is beginning to affect my eyesight. One of the Lectors at last evening's Mass, who happens to be blind, did the first reading - which caused me to imagine what it would be like if I were blind. Blind people always amaze me - and I have always felt genuine compassion for them - yet more so admiration for all they accomplish and achieve.
Tourettes blogger syndrome.
Not long ago, a commentator told me I didn't have to write everything I think - dah! no kidding! But that is what makes a blog. Anyway - now don't be offended by what I am going to say - because it makes me look more of a jerk than anything else. I have always secretly told myself things like, "They are blind, so they can't see how they look. They don't know how those clothes look, or how their hair is, etc.." (I know! That is mean!)
Yes, I am vain and superficial - so now you know. Nevertheless, it hit me, almost panicking me - as much as I was freaked in my early 20's - when I worried that if I lived a celibate life my - you know what - would shrivel up and fall off. Anyway, I thought, what if I'm blind and I go out in public, not knowing what I'm wearing, or everything is ill fitting or mis-matched, and my hair is standing straight up, or my sunglasses are smudged and crooked? I mean, what if I look really stupid but I don't know it? What if dried mucous is hanging from my nostril while I'm talking to someone?
You're not wearing that, are you!
And then I realized how truly vain and superficial I am still. I saw how all my self-esteem is bound up with appearance - I'm just an empty, vacuous, male bimbo. All my life I've been like this. One of my earliest memories is tormenting my brother and sister by asking if my face was dirty. Once I was eating a fudgesicle and with each bite I asked my sister if I had chocolate on my face. I couldn't understand her screaming at me to shut up about it. In the monastery I asked my friend David if the habit made me look as if I had a pot belly. (I was anorexic!) So you see, even in religious life I didn't like the clothes. I remember telling a woman who wanted to enter the Sisters of Life not to do so because their habits are so ugly. (I can't help it.)
Several years ago, working hard on this problem, I decided, in a spirit of poverty and to mortify this tendency, I would no longer buy Polo. Thus I bought a couple of pairs of Dockers or something. I couldn't wear them until I finally forced myself to put them on when I painted or worked in the yard. I've pretty much gotten over all of that now - kind of. I now buy jeans at Target, whereas before I'd only buy Calvin Klein, Polo, Gap, Girbaud, Guess, or Abercrombie and Fitch. I finally go to a regular barber to have my haircut rather than an expensive salon. I'm getting more practical as I get older.
Although, last night, and more so this morning, I realized, evidently I am not over this vanity crap. My big concern over the prospect of losing my eyesight seems to be I won't know what I look like. I'm really ashamed of myself.
However, as I'm writing this, I realize the bigger problem will be the inability to watch TV. Sheesh! What was I thinking?